Dating for parents of autistic children
Seemingly basic, non-sexual touching may be an issue, as well.“It may give them discomfort for someone to kiss them lightly or hold their hand,” Massey said.
“They need pressure, and that's not typically what you think of with tender, romantic love.”Perhaps because so much of their behavior runs counter to mainstream conceptions of how to express affection and love, people with autism are rarely considered in romantic contexts.
“Honestly, if you want to be romantic with me, send an email through Outlook and give me all the possible dates, locations, and times, so that I can prepare,” she said.
I get no parenting help or financial assistance from my ex. Any tips for single moms raising children on the autism spectrum? ” When a mother is a single parent and there is a youngster with High-Functioning Autism (HFA) to care for, the challenges can make life feel like a true test of endurance, but it can be done. Single parenting a child with HFA can be extremely stressful – as well as rewarding. Fatigue takes on a new meaning, and having social interaction outside the home is so far on the back-burner it is hard to remember what it was like to “have a life.” Nonetheless, it is important to carve-out some time in your schedule for fun social activities. The Internet also offers a broad spectrum of information on nearly every type of disorder. Fight for the best information, treatment, doctors, and options that exist. Every mother raising a child on the autism spectrum has to be her own researcher. When stressed-out, single moms often find themselves less able to connect with their kids or focus at work, which may lead to acting-out behavior by the children, time-consuming mistakes at work, and other things that increase stress for the mother and her family. A direct approach to the grandparents may not be welcome.
My ex is also on the spectrum, he has the older diagnosis of Asperger Syndrome. It’s easy to stay home and think that you are the only one dealing with that situation. In addition to caring for your son, you may be working full time, meeting the needs of your other kids, and taking care of the home, which leaves you little free time. You can’t be a great mother unless you are a great person. You have to make a concerted effort to start to build your new family based on reciprocity and support. Some support groups have a network of mothers who are on “phone duty” that you can call at any time when you need to talk or vent your emotions. After a divorce, ex in-laws can become a problem for you.
If you don't have anyone in your life that you can share your feelings with on a daily basis, work at developing friendships that are true give-and-take relationships.
If the mom and dad are arguing or fighting, the youngster is apt to act-out with defiant behaviors. So many people are ignorant and misinformed about HFA and being a single mum can bring extra judgements.